Body confidence
Body confidence is when you can look at yourself in the mirror and say: "I am good!". Better yet, when you no longer need to look in the mirror to reaffirm yourself. Body confidence is loving and accepting yourself. Recognizing your flaws and imperfections without feeling shy or uneasy about them. It's not about looking perfect to others; it's about how you feel about yourself, the foundation of self-confidence.
Clear the clutter
Your first step is to clear the clutter and keep it simple:
- Ignore influencers on your social media. What you see there is to gain views, likes, and fame. You may like what you see, but it has nothing to do with how you feel about yourself. Keep what you see and what you feel separate.
- Don't go diet crazy, simply stay healthy. The more restrictive a diet is, the shorter it will last, or the more miserable you will feel, leaving you worse off than when you started. Just keep reasonably healthy, cut down a bit here and there, and stay with it. The key is a happy balance of choices that you can live with, that will bring lasting results.
- Wear what makes you feel good! Don't hide your body in loose clothes; you only look worse! Wear what fits your shape. Take risks with bright colors, be daring to show off the parts of you that you are especially proud of. There is no reason to be prude about yourself. Fashion experiments are a fun way to practice your self-confidence.
- Move your body! Get moving, swinging, jumping, whatever feels good to you. Show off your hot body!
Your daily boost
Here is a practical, mindset-first roadmap for your daily boost of happiness and confidence:
- After a shower, towel dry with your eyes closed. Feel your body without judging. Let your brain shift from visual to feelings.
- Like one social media account showing activities you enjoy doing (dancing, climbing, swimming, etc.). Feed "normal" data to your brain!
- Real-life social: Talk in person with at least one positive-thinking person. Be it your best friend or the gardener down the street. It is not easy to find one every day, but over time, you will have a growing mental list of random positive-thinking people. Your social world will look brighter.
If it sounds like steps toward self-confidence, well ... it is! Body confidence goes hand in hand with self-confidence.
Ready for pleasure?
If you are a prude, you should skip this part, as it could unshackle you from boredom.
- Dress up and go out with no underwear. Only you know! It's a mind tickler. Ladies, kick it up a step: wear a short skirt and sit facing people in the bus or metro. You will remember the one who was looking at you, like they knew it.
- Dance naked with your lover or your bestie. Just enjoy the music and the moves, forget that you are naked.
- Go to a nudist resort. You will be amazed how normal and fun it is. When everyone is naked, gone are the usual markers of class and social standing with clothing.
- Explore your kinks, discover your feelings with Shibari. Ok, so you may have to look that up! Search for a social group near you, it is best and safer within a group, you will learn consent.