Healthy intimacy
There are six dimensions of intimacy. You most likely already have one or more dimensions of
intimacy with whom you seek more intimacy, as that intimacy is what draws you together.
There is no order of importance; every relationship has its own unique needs and dimensions.
But all require three keys to succeed: communication, connection, and engagement.
6 dimensions of intimacy:
- Physical intimacy - the touch, the feelings induced by body contact. Prioritize sexual intimacy, learn your partner's desires and fantasies, and go on a journey to explore them together. Do it often, be spontaneous. And also schedule special times for fantasies and kinks. Plan together and look forward to that day. It is also the brief and frequent physical contact throughout the day, a hand on a shoulder, a quick kiss, a pinch on the butt, etc.
- Emotional intimacy - Communication with a big 'C'. Building mutual trust to be able to open up and share thoughts and feelings. Clear and candid communication is most important to avoid misunderstandings and misinterpretations when you share your innermost thoughts. Emotional intimacy is important because it is durable and long-lasting, especially for the times you are alone.
- Intellectual intimacy - the mental dimension of emotional intimacy. Learning each other's interests and ideas to connect on common grounds. Sharing books or blogs to discuss together. Engaging in long discussions on subjects of common interest.
- Creative intimacy - creative passions! Be it in art, crafts, sports, and absolutely, sex! Kinks and fantasies trigger the most intense creative intimacy, together with emotional and physical intimacy.
- Experiential intimacy - things you do together! Climbing a mountain or simply taking a long walk brings you closer to share the satisfaction of the achievement, big or small.
- Spiritual intimacy - sharing of ideals of a higher level, beliefs, and values. Positive affirmation of each other's spirits. It is important to underline that it is about one's own spiritual values, independent of beliefs imposed by culture, religion, or powerful figures (family, teachers, etc.).
Most of all, mutual awareness of behavior and expressions builds up all the dimensions of intimacy over time.
Let's get creative!
Creative, playful, even boundary-pushing ideas to make electrifying intimacy. Get silly, have fun, and Always, always mutual consent first.- Blindfold your partner and lightly brush their skin with different textures, a feather, ice, a fork, wool, etc. Start at the hands or feet and slowly move along the body until ... depending on mood and intent.
- Cosplay: Dress up in costumes to roleplay your favorite anim, or mythical figure. Through roleplay, it is easier to explore secret fantasies together.
- Fishbowl: Place a fishbowl in the bedroom, with a pen, a blue paper notepad, and a pink paper notepad ... or whatever color you like. Whenever you or your partner has a desire, a fantasy, or a kinky idea, secretly write it down on your color notepad, carefully fold the paper several times, and drop it in the fishbowl. After a few days, there should be many folded notes in the fishbowl as you are both full of ideas. When it is relax time, one of you goes fishing for a paper of the other color, and reads it out ... will you dare do what your partner wrote?